Being invited to a wedding when you’re single can be very exciting news… or really depressing. Of course, the important thing is that two people that you know very well are getting married and you’re extremely happy for them, but… what goes through the mind of someone that has to attend a wedding alone?
The first thing that differs in this situation is the invitation. It’s not an invitation for a couple, and it doesn’t even include a +1. If you don’t know many of the other guests, the prospect of spending the day with strangers can seem a little daunting to say the least.
Regardless of your situation, your RSVP should never depend on your relationship status. If you’re single and invited to a wedding, your decision to attend or not should depend on other more important factors, such as your relationship with the couple, or if the date works for you in regards to other social events or booking time off work. Never decline a wedding invitation just because you’re single.
Once you’ve confirmed your attendance, the next thing is to do a little research into the guest list, and find out if any other people you know will also be there. University or work friends, family, people you may have met socially… It’s always a relief to see a familiar face in these situations. If you don’t know anyone, then politely ask the couple if you could be seated with other single or like minded people. Try having a look on Facebook or on the couple’s personal wedding website. A simple comment on something wedding related whether it’s to the groom’s sister about her dress or to one of the bridesmaids about their shoes could enable you to make friends ahead of the big day. Another way would be to attend any pre wedding festivities the couple may have ahead of the wedding day or suggest they introduce you to some friends on a night out before the wedding.
Once seated at the table, unless it’s a specific singles table, it’s possible that the rest of your fellow diners may be couples. You don’t need to rehearse a speech before leaving home, but if you’ve got some good topics of conversation for small talk, this could really help to break the ice. An excellent example: ask other guests how they know the couple, because it’s one thing for sure that you all have in common – the couple. Light topics such as recent holidays, what people do for a living, the menu or recent events such as the world cup are good and easy conversation starters.
After the food, comes the party… don’t be afraid of the dance floor. Remember, one wedding often leads to another… It’s essential you don’t hit the bar too quickly as sometimes can be the case in awkward situations when you feel uncomfortable, and better to swap your gin and tonic for your best moves on the dance floor. More often than not, people dance alone at weddings, especially groups of girls!
Above all else remember why you’re attending the wedding. To witness your friend/s getting married and sharing with them the happiest day of their lives. Forget about your insecurities just for a few hours and enjoy yourself at something that will always be a happy and joyous occasion!Photos by: Nadia Meli